Wednesday, June 4, 2014
Growing up... The worry free years part 1
Every single person has many stories to tell. This one is about the "worry-free" years of my childhood. When my mom was probably around 27, she married a guy named Bill who was around 50. My sister & I were around 9 & 5. I was the baby then. We moved from a one bedroom apartment we lived in to his very small ranch house. It's funny how it seemed like such a big difference at the time. This house was a very small house, years later when I went to visit it... I couldn't believe how truly small it was. But it's all relative & us girls had our own room so to us it was a mansion. (really) My mom married Bill very quickly, I don't know why it was so rushed. While my mom & my "real" father were separated for a while I believe, it wasn't until recently when I found my mom's divorce papers from that marriage, did I find out that she had in fact married Bill only a few months after her & my "real" father's divorce was finalized. Which surprised me. My sister & I were not at the wedding. Which I find strange even now? I think Bill didn't want us there & mom went along with it. I'll never really know the reason. I knew even when I was very young, like when I was in middle school the reason why my mom married Bill. She wanted "security" & he provided it. Saying that, I know they were very happy for a while & obviously loved each other as well. I don't know all the details of why my mom & "real" father split up, but what I've been told is that it wasn't a good relationship, that he drank a lot & didn't provide for us the way a "daddy" should. I never saw "my real" father again. Not much of a father, was he? My sister & I never really warmed up to Bill. He wasn't what you would call a "warm & fuzzy" type. He didn't beat us or anything but let's just call him "strict" & "oldfashion" & at his age that didn't really surprise us. Or at least that's what my 5 year old self thought. Now in my 40's I have a totally different opinion of 50. NO....50's not old at all, but see the response you'd get from most 5 years old. BUT even with my opinion now...I would still refer to Bill as "old fashion" even at the young age of 50... *I'm tired so I'm going to stop here. I'll write more later.